And then Boyfriend will be in the country. At work today, I was occasionally smiling like an idiot, because I kept thinking what it'll be like to hug that guy again! (And just how will it be? Ridiculously awesome, that's how!)
Long distance relationships are not for the faint of heart, by the way. There are several good words to describe them with: lonely (sure, there's Skype, but that's not good enough, which leads into...), not fulfilling (physical contact, it's important more than once every five-to-six months), trying (discussing the hum-drum of your day is more fulfilling when it's done sitting on the couch together, vegging out) and a strain (since physical communication tells more -supposedly- than verbal communication, you're missing out on a whole lot of communication!). But hey, if you survive it, you're some kind of super hero or mutant with regenerative abilities and super strength or something.
However fantastic it is to constantly be around the -friend in your life, it's important to give them some time to do their own thing - and to take some of that time for yourself! You aren't connected at the hip, you're allowed to have different friends, you're allowed to have a boys, or girls-night out (according to your gender, of course). These things are good things, they're healthy things to have. They keep you from going stir-crazy. If your only social contact happens in the workplace, with your family, or at home with your other half, my friend, you're well on your way to Crazyville (interestingly enough, the population of Crazyville is 1: you).
So, to throw in some good ol' demonstration of this principle, we'll take Boyfriend. Boyfriend just spent the evening at a heavy metal concert. I love Boyfriend, I love being with Boyfriend and talking to Boyfriend... but sometimes I don't understand Boyfriend. Well, no, sometimes I don't understand heavy metal. Most of the time, actually. But Boyfriend loves it. So, when he talks to me about music, and heavy metal in particular, I shut up and listen, because I know that Boyfriend isn't particularly interested in hearing about various recipes I want to try out or which plants need what kinds of care, etc., but he loves me and supports the things that I enjoy doing (and will even listen to tangents about those things).
...Okay, we've moved toward conversation and communication here, so back to "Me" time. Go out, without Other Half, and do something awesome. Let Other Half go out, too! Hopefully there's a level of trust already there, wherein you know that they're not going to go out looking for some attention from some person that isn't their other half (ie. you). Even though you might not understand their fascination with monster trucks, fish, shooting guns, or shoes, make-up, and volleyball, let them do their thing. And go do your own thing, too. Let's try and get rid of Crazyville, that place is weird.
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